Being a first time mom isn’t as easy as I thought. I have always imagined how I should raise my child only to realize that It wasn’t as easy as I thought it would be. I always hoped for a well behaved, not sutil, not brat child. Well, My daughter’s not a brat and well behaved, uhm.. sometimes. But I learned that no matter how hands on you are as a mom, there are still things that are out of your control. Toddlers are normally malikot because they explore a lot. Their learning process begins so they love to imitate and follow the elders. As with Jhia, she follows me wherever I go, kahit sa cr! When she started walking, she goes all around the house – from the sala, to my parents’ room, to the kitchen, and even outside! Without her crib that serves as a gate, I wouldn’t be surprised if she’d be able to go upstairs. Malikot kung malikot, makulit kung makulit! She puts things in her mouth, kahit anong mapulot nya. Even that crawling creature we call “tren-tren” pinupulot nya. Huhu. Yuck, I know.
That’s the thing about toddlers – they start exploring. Yun lang, sometimes I catch her just trying to annoy me or her dad. You know it when she’s just playing tricks on us. It’s easy to point to her what’s good and what’s not. Sometimes, even if I just said no, she’ll keep doing it, as if testing my patience. When she felt like you’re getting angry, bigla syang tatawa. You lose. Sometimes, it’s cute. Sometimes, arrrggghh!
But being a hands-on mom is also rewarding. I gave up my profession to see my daughter’s daily milestone, including her everyday new kakulitan. Breastfeeding her is on the top of the list! Yeps, she’s exclusively breastfed up to now and I don’t have any plans of weaning her until she opted to. Nasa bahay lang naman ako. Wala naman akong ibang gagawin kung hindi tutukan sya. May gatas naman ako. So why not, diba? After all, breastmilk is best for babies. Full of nutrients na, tipid pa.
Jhia started walking at ten months. One time, this kuya from the hmo noticed her:
Kuya: mam, yan na yung baby mo? Ang laki na ha. May isang taon na ba yan?
Me: mag iisang taon palang.
Kuya: (saw her walking) oh, naglalakad na?
Me: opo, kung saan na nga nakakaabot.
Kuya: talaga? Ang galing naman. Mahal siguro gatas nyan!
Husband: Breastfed yan.
Kuya: oh? Breastfeed lang, walang kahalong gatas?
kuya: pwede pala yun. Ang galing ah!
There may not be a direct relation between breastfeeding and she, waking a little too early for her age..
Hashtag Proud Mommy Moment: exclusive breastfeeding. ✔️
When Jhia turned six months, I started giving her mashed vegetables. I used to mix it with my milk so medyo familiar sa kanya yung lasa. I read it in a breastfeeding group so I did it to her. It worked! Hindi sya picky eater, well, if being picky doesn’t include eating less of sour foods. Hehe. She eats almost everything you give her, that’s her hobby. She just doesn’t like sour and dry foods, although she gives it a try. Mga ilang subo, ayaw nya na. Like sinigang and fried dishes. She doesn’t each much when those are served although she eats pineapple. Most that she likes are veggies and soup dishes: Ginisang Gulay, Chopsuey, Ginisang Sayote, Nilaga are just some of her favorites. She also likes to eat fruits. Hindi lang for dessert, but also for merienda and gusto-nya-lang-may-kinakaen moments, hehe. Hey, she eats broccolis! We don’t strictly follow the Tamang Kain rule as I allow her to eat junk foods and sweets sometimes. Only a little so that she’d be familiar with them. Pinapainom ko nalang ng tubig agad. My friends are commending us for her eating habits as most of the kids we know are picky eater. I’ve got some mommy friends who asked me to share my techinque with them and they’re not even first time moms!
Proud Mommy Moment: Make her eat healthy foods ✔️
Jhia is indeed a “tipid baby”. When she turned a month old, I started using Cloth Diapers on her. I recognize that she has a sensitive skin. We used to apply a diaper cream everytime we change nappies. So instead of experimenting what diaper would fit her, I tried the CD. Charaaan! No more rashes! Goodbye, diaper cream! Good job, CD! Well, it only requires an extra effort and time to wash them. You’re lucky if you get extra hands for that. And maybe a little extra expense as it costs 200php and up each but you’ve also saved in the long run. We didn’t ditch the disposable diaper at all, though. We still use one or two at night. 1) It sometimes leaks, maybe due to repeated wash the insert gets thinner. Or maybe just because she’s malikot matulog; 2) I used to wash the CDs right after use, especially when she pooped and I cannot do it at night. When she was a baby, she poops even at night; 3) It’s kind of bulky when going out and my lazy ass wouldn’t want to bring an extra bag for the diapers. In figures, we only spend about 300pesos for a pack of 60’s disposable diapers good for a month or two. That’s a lot more tipid than buying every week and less hassle, too. I don’t need run to the grocery store every now and then. By the way, I bought the CDs online so convenient padin as I just have to wait for them to be delivered and need not to go out anymore.
Proud Mommy Moment: tipid for Cloth Diapering ✔️
I still have a long list of parenting do’s for my little kid. It’s an advantage I stay at home and got time to read. Maybe that’s the key: reading. When I was pregnant, I used my time in joining support groups and advanced reading about parenting. Then I started practicing what I read when Jhia was born. It’s hard at first. Nothing comes easy on the first time, I guess. Thankful that I have my husband who walks hand in hand with me as we both become first time parents.
Parenting – bago na naman to. We’re done with adulting now we’re faced with new challenges in the parenting stage. Guess it just never ends. I still have a long way to go with Jhia. And there’s plenty of things to learn and do. My professional days are over. This is my new career. Hashtag Mommy Duties. ❤️